Regular readers of this blog series will know that I go to a school reunion in York every May. Yes – I left school 46 years ago, but I’ve been ever-present at the past ten reunions, and probably more than that.
We do the same things each year (if it ain’t broke etc) and this May was no exception – same pubs, same visits to the school on Friday and Saturday, same Saturday night gathering at our regular Italian restaurant with 20 of us enjoying each other’s company.
But, I hear you say, what about doing something different; ringing the changes? We’re told that getting outside our comfort zones, taking risks, meeting new people, stretches us and enriches our lives.
That may be true, but I believe it’s also important to recognise that doing something predictable and familiar, including relaxing with people with whom we feel comfortable, has its own merits. With good friends we’re free to be ourselves; to have some meaningful conversation (particularly important for men) alongside the school-boy banter. Every year I learn new things about people I’ve known since England last won the World Cup (1966 if your memory needs a jog), I get new insights from comments that are made in passing, from differing views shared. I was also delighted to have a good chat with my former geography teacher – a man who had a massive influence on my early academic exploits. For me, the reunion would not be the same without him.
Of course despite the familiar formula, this year’s reunion was different from previous gatherings in a number of ways. From the more trivial – for my B&B breakfasts, I chose Eggs Benedict (look it up) and kippers, rather than my traditional order for a full English – to more serious subjects. The recent and unexpected death of one of our old school teachers meant we found ourselves reflecting on our own mortality (although our year group reunion members seem to be pretty healthy).
So, feel free to spend time in your comfort zone – it’s a great way to recharge your batteries, reflect on what you value in life, and the odd surprise is bound to crop up when you’re least expecting it.
And the significance of the platform planter in the photo? I discovered it while changing trains in Peterborough and in so doing I learnt about a new-to-me charity – the Bee Friendly Trust https://beefriendlytrust.org. You should never stop learning, even 46 years after leaving school.
A little story from another school reunion https://enterpriseessentials.wordpress.com/2018/08/27/the-joy-of-planning-and-the-unexpected